People may have a tendency to become defensive when they feel as though a friend or even a family member is attacking them. It’s the natural instinct for most people to defend themselves against perceived attacks. When a senior has a family member or friend starting to talk about home care options, they may take it as a personal affront.
They may not see things from the same perspective. Even though this elderly person is struggling with their own basic care, constantly calling on this adult child, friend, or neighbor for help, they might not believe home care is the answer.
Some aging seniors may have pointed questions they counter with whenever the topic of home care is brought up. By anticipating some of these questions, especially if they’re going to be rhetorical questions, it can help the person mentioning home care explain in greater detail why this would be a benefit.
Potential Question #1: “You want to get rid of me?”
If an aging senior has been relying on their adult child, spouse, or even a sibling for help for months or even years and suddenly the topic of home care is brought up, they might assume this is the first step in getting them moved to some other facility or out of the area so they ‘aren’t a bother’ anymore. This is easy to refute, especially when somebody knows what home care aides truly offer.
Potential Question #2: “Won’t they just ignore me?”
There are many myths and misconceptions about home care aides and the services they provide. Compassionate, kind, and qualified home care aides, especially those who work for agencies, are going to work with their elderly clients to help them enjoy life to the fullest. They won’t ignore their clients but will instead encourage them to be as active as they want to, within the boundaries of their physical capabilities.
Potential Question #3: “How can we afford it?”
Another common misconception people have is that home care is simply not affordable. If more seniors understood they could hire services through an agency for just a couple of hours at a time, even for just one or two days a week, they would realize just how affordable this can be.
Potential Question #4: “Why do you think I need it?”
Some aging seniors understand they need help from time to time, but they often overestimate their physical or even mental capabilities as they get older. Most of us have a tendency to overestimate our own skills and abilities in most things we do, but when this question is posed, it’s a good idea to point out specific incidences, including slips and falls, constant calls for help, and more.
It may also be necessary to explain one’s own limitations on time and how they can’t keep doing this for much longer without some other help.